Most single women have been asked this question by a guy at one time or another.
Something about this question stokes our insecurities. Why aren’t we married? Is there something wrong with us?
Why does this question cause us to question ourselves?
What Does Why Are You Still Single” Mean?
For a small percentage of guys, it is a way of complimenting women – in the most awkward way, possible, but they don’t know that.
The guy can’t believe a woman so beautiful wouldn’t have a pool of eligible bachelors asking for her hand in marriage.
However, for some, there is a definite subtext to the question. What the guy is really wondering is:
– Why can’t you keep a man?
– Do you have some sort of baggage?
– Are you one of those feminists?
– What hidden defect do you have?
It’s no wonder this question automatically puts a woman in defense mode.
However, ladies, if you want to keep your cool and elegance, you’ll have to skip the sarcastic comeback.
The way to do that is to assume the best.
Scripture tells us that “whatsoever things are lovely, think on these things”.
So, let’s assume the guy has no emotional intelligence, but means well. How do you respond to such a question?
Chances are, he doesn’t mean to insult you, especially if he asks you that while out on a date.
He probably means to compliment you. He wants to tell you how attractive you are and is surprised you haven’t been “wifed” by someone yet.
Possible Calm Answers to “You’re So Pretty. Why Are You Still Single”?
Recently, I was listening to a podcast called Awesome Etiquette, which is run by Emily Post’s great, great grandchildren. They gave some possible responses.
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This should be said with a smile, otherwise it can come across as sarcastic.
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Also say this with a smile.
This answer acknowledges the compliment, while educating the guy that one is not related to another.
So now that I’ve given you two options, you will never be flustered by this question again.
There is one more option, ladies.
The next time someone says, “You’re so pretty; why are you still single?”, smile sweetly and say, “Have you heard of a site called chastecourtship.com”?
Ladies, have you been asked this question?
How about the guys, have you asked this before?